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FOLLOWING your new Instagram fling can be as exciting as it is nerve-wracking.
But according to this dating expert, watching their Instagram stories is the best way to end a relationship before it even starts.
While it can be tempting to follow a potential partner’s social media, traumatologist and dating specialist Lisa decided tik tak share why this is never a good idea.
Most likely, in the initial stages of a relationship, you will see something that you do not want, and this will provoke you, the professional says.
Especially in Instagram stories where users can post photos and videos that can only be viewed for 24 hours.
Unlike actual Instagram posts, which you should probably avoid anyway, stories will likely have less context, leaving you wondering who your new man is with and what he’s doing.
Lisa shared, “We’re too caught up in their lives because we don’t know them yet, we’re much more likely to fail if we stay in our lane.”
The girl in his Instagram story is probably his cousin or brother’s girlfriend, but when you don’t know enough about your new man, you automatically think the worst.
It can be tempting to see who they hang out with when you’re not around, or to see what the song they wrote about really means and if it’s about you, Lisa says we read too much into these things.
All the weird thoughts you have at the start of a new relationship can be stopped by focusing on yourself and getting to know them personally, not through what they post, according to an expert.
It’s a big taboo in the dating world. If you want to show that you’re interested in what your new beau is up to, there are better ways to do it.
Viewers agreed with the dating pro’s advice: “Not having them on social media helped my anxiety so much!”
Another added: “100%! Plus, you allow a real emotional connection to grow without the jealousy, irritation, and craziness that muddles the water.”
While a third said “I feel like I can find a red flag or ick by watching their stories, I can’t resist watching them!”
And another shared, “Yesterday I was thinking about ‘innocent viewing pleasure’, yes, it crossed my mind.”
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